Welcome to MyCrazyIn-Laws.com, the ultimate Blog for the married woman! We are dedicated to the venting of frustrations caused by marriages biggest drawback: those Crazy In-Laws! Thanks to great readers like you and your wonderful ideas for the site, we have decided to add an advice corner. Those of you who would like advice from other ladies, who have experienced the same trials, please submit your saga. Have a great remedy for someone, yet us know, we would love to hear it! Read our first request for advice below!
Advice Wanted: MIL to-be problems
I need help! My fiance, Billy and I are getting married in February 2009 and his family is crazy. The sister is the manipulative princess of the family who at one point acted like my best friend only to almost ruin my relationship with my best friend who was at the time dating her other brother. The mother constantly tells Billy that he is ruining the family (I guess b/c we bought a house and moved in together) and the father always finds something to get upset about and hold a grudge. They are constantly doing or saying things to make me fell like they're trying to break us up- when everyone else in Billy's life like all his friends say that I am the best thing to have happened to him. Also my family loves him and loves us together too. I feel like the drama is never going to end, but I know that we are meant to be together. I just don't know how to handle his family.
Submitted Advice:
I totally have a similar situation! I call
his side of the family
my crazies. They make it out to be that me and my family are not
trustworthy and that I'm an "ordinary" companion for their son.
On the
other hand, my family respects my fiancé and they genuinely care
for him.
All I can say is do your best to hang in there. There is always
going to be
the awkward petty grudges and disapproval, but we know the real
story. I
focus on my own family and remind myself that I can't please
everyone...especially those crazies.
Advice Wanted: Kids and School
I have a 3 year old and a 1 year old at home and I have decided to work towards my master’s degree. The program is on-line and I will be doing it part time only and being a stay at home mom. I do not have to worry about a working outside the home and will be able to devote ample time to my children. I have been successfully doing this for a few months now and my mother-in-law just found out about this and was absolutely disgusted with me. She feels not only am I now neglecting my children, but if I finish this degree, in her mind that means I will never be a good mom because in her head a working mom is a bad mom. I am not sure what my work plans in the future will be, but I want to keep options open. My husband supports me, and in fact it was his idea that I work toward this life-long goal of mine. Do you ladies have any advice or thoughts on how I should deal with my Mother-in-law? Or maybe I am looking at things the wrong way. Any Advice would help!
Submitted Advice:
(June 16th) My MIL believes only women should have degrees.
She's a complete man eater. Tells me I will never get my degree, its to hard and crap like that.
(June 5th) More power to you girl. I hope you
finish at the top of your class, are a successful mother and
career woman, then you can turn around and rub it in her face.
(June 26th) It doesn't matter what she thinks. If your kids are being taken care of and your husband supports you then there's nothing to feel guilty about. She's probably jealous because most in-laws want to make you feel like you're beneath them and if you have a degree then she'll feel that way instead. Trust me, I got them! The worst are the psycho sister-in-laws! Good Luck!!