Story: Grandmother from hell

Submitted 14th July, 2009 Average Rating: 4

My grandchildrens "other grandmother" is a racist, bigot and seriously prejudiced against all people who are different from her.(religion,social status,income) and has begun brainwashing these children wwith her warped and sick opinions. She also continuously bribes them with toys and candy. This is becoming very disturbing as there is a messy divorce happening and she is caring for them too often and has warped their feelings for us and our family.

ANY SUGGESTIONS???

Story: Gossip Queen

Submitted 11th August, 2009 Average Rating: 4

........married for 13 years now, and sick to the stomach with my in-laws. they gossip a lot, wants to get together and character assasinate those who are not present.
thinks so highly of themselves and bunch of hypocrites.
they've bullied and confronted me once saying they don't like me!!!!! i want to forgive and forget but i know their character and i just can't stomach them anymore.
...............third class of people always gossiping other people.

Story: She does not even acknowledge that I am alive!!

SSubmitted 10th August, 2009 Average Rating: 4

My Husband and I got married almost a year ago and just found out that we are pregnant and are both ecstatic!
We would love to share this new news with his Mom however she does not recognize that I exist. Why should I share this wonderful news with her?
I have not directly spoken with her since our wedding which she nearly ruined. This is, however, not for my lack of trying. Not getting into specifics of what she did, but it does involve leaving us with the bill (for $3,000) for the entire rehersal dinner (100 guests) which she agreed to initially pay and had planned all the meals. If we knew this was going to be the case, we would have done thing differently. She left as soon as dinner was served at the reception, saying some terrible things at the actual ceremony during the reading she did, not even saying good by when she left after the wedding, no congrats etc... the list goes on. These unexplained actions actually started a few weeks/ months before our wedding. Something was/is obviously up her butt, however when trying to discuss her not replying to my emails, returning phone calls, etc she hung up on me! My husband and I got married with in a year of meeting each other and fortunately she lives 16 hours away, so she doesn't even know me well enough to not like me!

After a few months after the wedding, my husband put past his hurt feelings and anger over her actions and tried to communicate with her what the issues she has are, but has recieved no feedback. Its like trying to get through to an infant!
I have on several occasions emailed her to ask her how she has been doing (now almost a year later) and still have not heard from her. I am tried of extending the olive branch and not getting anything in return. I am fed up and feel like I am being walked upon. I am trying here with no luck.
She is totally pushing her self out of her sons life (they have had an exceptionally close relationship until the past year) She has also been married and divorced 3 times.

My parents are still married and are so supportive and loves my husband (well he is amazing :))
If this person thinks that they can ignore me, do they have the right and privlage to know that we will be having a child?

My husband and I are putting together a straight forward, but inviting email to see what the deal is and that we would love to have her apart of our lives if she can put away what ever feelings she has and move forth with a relationship with us.
Should we tell her of our news??

Any advice will be great!

Story: Let's share a wedding

Submitted 31th July, 2009 Average Rating: 3

My husband and I were looking forward to our wedding day as much as the next newly wed couple. We planned the whole thing... a very intimate affair with few guests.

It all started when his mother wanted to wear the same color of dress as me. ... the bride. Then, she was offended on how we labeled and packaged our invitations. A series of annoying events continued throughout the engagement.

My husband's parents had been divorced and estranged for nearly a decade, and on our wedding day they were making out on the dance floor,physcially pulling my husband and I apart to announce that they were now "back together", not just once, not just twice, but three times at the reception. How special.

Story: My family vs. my future in-laws

Submitted 30th July, 2009 Average Rating: 3

Soon my future mother-in-law will be throwing my fiancee and i an engagement party.
I'm really nervous about the two families meeting because my family is pretty laid back and my future in-laws are very loud and will say pretty much anything that comes to mind.
Sometimes they can be very embarrasing. I'm even considering just canceling the the entire engagement party, or not even inviting my family.
Then to top it off my future mother-in-law, kind of told me she was giving us this party instead Then party is going to be held like an hour and a half away from where my family stays.

What should i do??????

Story: Clothing Optional.....

Submitted 25th July, 2009 Average Rating: 4

My in laws live overseas. (One of the best days of my life was when they moved back to their country!!!) I digress.....
There are many cultural differences. One major one is their inhibitions with their bodies no matter how bad the ravages of time have been.
Here's the visual....she's in her sixties, overweight and saggy (I'm sure I'll be there someday myself, but I promise not to show anyone!!).
The last time they came to visit my oldest daughter was about 4 years old. One day her grandmother (my MIL) decided to get undressed in front of everyone. She was in the guest room but couldn't seem to wait for us to leave.
As I was trying to desperately usher my daughter out of the room it was too late. Off came the bra and I wanted to take a hot poker and sear out my eyes.
The worst part is yet to come....b/c after she did that my daughter went over and started bouncing them around with her hands and my MIL just started laughing!!!!! TMI!!!!
I'm seriously scarred for life........and there are PLENTY more wonderful stories like this...
I'll be back.

Story: Sister in Law STOLE the MIL's will??!!

Submitted 18th July, 2009 Average Rating: 4

I'm the one with the MIL that came to visit, had an alcohol induced stroke, and had lots of drama from her daughters. My DH and I cared for her and she was in our master-bedroom for weeks .. the daughters of my MIL were such stinkers that she had to go back up north, to live alone in her home, draining all her funds on home health aids .. anyway, here is the latest .. her WILL is gone .. the only signed original is gone .. all that my husband has is an unsigned copy .. and all the MIL has is an unsigned copy .. the catch is, now my MIL is deemed not of SOUND mind and body, so she can't re-sign ..
My husband is her PO, power of attorney, and needs to have the correct docs, for when the time comes .. the kicker is, it's her own daughter that took the signed will and tore it up .. because she didn't like the content .. therefore, now with no signed will, when the time comes, the family will be forced to go through PROBATE, holding up any distributions .. and ultimately the copy of her will, will be enforced through probate .. and it's a CRAZY will .. she names my husband as her executor of the will, tells HIM to pick what the sisters can have, and states if they DON'T like what he gives them, they get $1.00 if they contest the will .. what a hoot .. so the MIL will have the last laugh, eventually, at her own spoiled daughters.

MY MIL was a nightmare for years, for me .. for us .. but being over 70, and ILL has softened her .. her daughters are manipulative game players .. out to destroy the entire family, over property and things, BEFORE she is even dead???? amazing!!

Story: The future in-laws are coming on my honeymoon

Submitted 13th July, 2009 Average Rating: 4.5

This one takes the cake.
We asked my future in-laws if we could use their vacation cottage for our honeymoon. They said sure. Then somehow it ended up that they were coming along too, along with my fiance's sister, brother, and kids.
Next thing I know the sister has invited her friends (another couple with kids) to come for a vacation- on my honeymoon! I finally put my foot down and said NO WAY- now I look like the bad guy!!!
What don't these people understand- this is our honeymoon not a family reunion!
Does anyone in the world except me, see anything wrong with this picture???

Story: Sister-In-Law has need to control

Submitted 12th July, 2009 Average Rating: 3.5

My fiance' and I have been together for 17 years we have a 12-Year-old daughter together. The problem His sister does like me at all.
I call her my frenemy, She is always criticizing and telling lies saying that I am doing things that aren't true. I call her my frenemy, She is always criticizing and telling lies saying that I am doing things that aren't true.
Every time i turn around she has started some type of chaos in the family. She always has to make herself to be better than everyone in the world. She has what I called the grandiosity syndrome. I have become immune to her attacks. but this week she over step her boundaries, she had my daughter afraid to tell the truth about a situation. She in turn attacked me when I chastise my daughter. Calling me a liar and all. She told my daughter not to call me.
Then she called her brother and lied to him saying that our daughter was crying and shouting "Why is my mother doing this" He started yelling at me and all. He always starts in on me when she tells him something. Which we find was untrue. Before getting to the truth.
This is where I draw the line in the frenemy relationship. I will not allow my daughter to be manipulated forced to be afraid to tell the truth.
Or be forced to chose between her mother and her aunt.

Story: MIL had stroke and SIL called cops on us?

Submitted 9th July, 2009 Average Rating: 4.5

My MIL came from up north to visit us .. while in town, she went over to her empty parent's home (they are deceased), she is an alcoholic, and bought a huge bottle of vodka, got wasted, tripped over furniture, crushed her nose, fell into the shower, hit her head and fractured her back ..
my DH found her the next day, 1/2 on, 1/2 off the couch, covered in her own pee .. he took her to a local hosp.
They found she had fractured her spine, had several mini strokes, and has alcohol induced dementia .. she was unable to remember conversations from the morning to the afternoon .. she couldn't bathe herself, use her cell phone, or open a can to feed herself .
My husband brought her home from the hosp to OUR masterbedroom .. and he and I moved into the kids room .. sleeping separately .. this has been since May 12 .. the MIL has always been a grumpy nasty crappy game playing stinker .. and her two darling daughters are even worse .. however, since the binge and the strokes, she became NICER .. amazing .. the problem, other than having her in our bedroom, was the darling daughters didn't believe a word we said .. about the dementia, that she can no longer live alone .. the need for her home health care aides ..
they would call her and get her so upset, and she would call them and rile them up .. eventually we were threatened with the lawyer talk .. so my husband packed her up and took her back up north yesterday .. although she has never cared for me .. and didn't want us to marry .. it's never good to see anyone decline this quickly .. my poor husband cares for her, and is her Power of Attorney .. but felt forced by his sisters to take her back up north. amazingly, the other sister lives 12 hours away, and the sister up north with the mother already said she won't take care of her, she just wanted her HOME.
Now, my MIL will be in her home with 24/7 nursing care at 18$$$ an hour .. guess what SIL's .. that's your inheritence money going down the drain .. they should have just left her here with us, the nursing care in our home was $400 a week .. now her $$ will drain, and she won't have any family member around ..
the up north daughter is a busy professional and can't care for her, and the other daughter is too far away ..
we offered to do it, and were even looking at bigger houses to accomodate us all .. and were FORCED basically to send her back to her own home, to die alone ..

what crap

Story: I'm Still Wondering

Submitted 1th July, 2009 Average Rating: 4.5

I had just given birth to our second child, a daughter.

My in-laws came to visit and present me with a beautiful fountain pen.

I thanked them profusely for the gift. My mother-in-law piped up:

"Just think what you would have gotten if it had been a boy!"

Story: Interesting Gift

Submitted 30th June, 2009 Average Rating: 4

This past weekend, my fianc=C3=A9's parents threw "us" an engagement party (I use quotations because we, the honored couple, were never asked for input regarding the guest list). I have many a complaint about these people - and every problem comes from their need to control EVERYTHING.
As an adult whose parents taught her how to think for herself, I have a problem understanding their need to comment or complain about every independent decision my fiance and I make together.

Regardless, a party is a party, and I am not one to bitch verbally about such events. Their craziness, however, becomes very clear when his parents announce they have something special for my parents, and a small envelope is handed over. Inside are three photos - a recent one of me, a recent one of my finance, and a recent one of the two of us together.
They are all great photos ... but one of them looks familiar - why?
Oh, because my mother took it, and posted it on Facebook. With a look of horror, my guy leans over and whispers - "Didn't your mother take that photo? " "Surely not," I reply. So my guy asks his dad - "Dad, did you take these photos?"

"Yes! Everyone one!"

But no! Lies! I go home, log into Facebook, and sure enough - its the exact same photo that my mother took herself. It's still posted in one of her Facebook photo album.

Seriously - its one element of crazy to download a photo from my mother's Facebook account and give it to her. It's a whole other realm of crazy then to claim is as your own! Did he not think my mother would recognize a photo she took herself?!

Oh goodness.

Story: Crazy in-laws say I took their son from them

Submitted 21th June, 2009 Average Rating: 4

I think my in-laws story would top anyone's hands down. I mean I was even contacted by the Dr. Phil show to see if me, my husband, and my in-laws would be willing to fly out and have a taping about our story. (I'll explain more in a minute) first I will break it down for you all.
I met my now husband 5 years ago at a New Years party. I had just gotten out of a break up and wasn't at all looking for anything. But then I met Michael (my husband) he asked me to shoot a game of pool with him.
He then asked me for my number once we got to know one another. I said sure, and gave it to him. Anyway, our first date he decided to take me deer hunting... which was fine.
I have a brother and dad who love to deer hunt. He told me his younger brother and dad are already in the woods, and said we had to go pick up his mother. We went to his house and I walked in, and his mother came down the stairs. She was walking towards me (I thought she was going to greet me) so I started to say hi but she walked right past me without even looking at me.
We then all got into the vehicle and the whole time michael and his mom were talking. neither of them spoke a word to me. (no, he didnt even introduce his mother to me) well we got into the woods, and me and michael went to a stand together after hunting I met his dad and brother who were very welcoming. his brother, dad and mother all went back to the house while me and michael went to go pick up pizza.
when we got back there were like 7 of michaels friends there all playing pool. I went and sat down on the sofa where everyone else was, and put my legs on the sofa. (my feet were hanging off the sofa) Michaels mom in front of everyone says to me "get your feet off the sofa. I don't know you"
I was shocked and really embarrised and put my legs off the sofa. (reminding you all now, this is a game room and everyone else who was sitting on the sofa's had their feet actually on the sofa's.) Anyway, moving on me and michael had actually started to date and I would go over to his house sometimes but mostly it would be at night when his mom and dad were already in bed. (we would go and watch a movie over there or something) well it seemed the longer we dated the more his mom hated me.
I was getting my hair done one day at the salon and michael met me there and asked me to go to his brother's city league baseball game. I said sure, and as soon as my hair was done we left.
We were 15 minutes late to the game and when we arrived his mother gave michael a really mean look. Like she was really upset. The last straw during our dating relationship is when me, my sister, michael and his friend all decided to go down the river in rafts (they lived on the river) so we went to michaels house to get the rafts, went down the river then went back to the house to return them.
His mother had just pulled up, saw me waiting in the car with my sister and michaels friend and went over to michael, started screaming at him, and threw a beer bottle at him! (she hated me when I had done nothing wrong to her) michael left and told his friend josh (the guy with us)-he had a house and was looking for a roomate, that he wanted to move in with him. so he did. During that time michael and his mom barely spoke.
Well, michaels granny had a heart attack, and was in the hosp, and so michael and his mom started speaking again.
After his granny was in the hosp for about 3 weeks I found out I was pregnant.
Michael then proposed to me (he said he was planning on proposing even before finding out I was pregnant. we had been together for a year by this time) We had told my parents, and they were fine with it. (they loved michael, and were happy for us) well michael had told me he told his mother about it. (by the way, his granny died that next week) we had planned to do a small wedding at the court house then after having the baby having a bigger one.
Well my parents paid for our honeymoon in the mountains in tennessee and everything. The day we were supposed to get married I showed up at his house (he built his grannys house, which is right accross from his parents house and she had always said when she dies she wants it to go to michael. so he moved in after she died) Anyway, I showed up at his house because I was going to pick up his bags then meet him at the court house.
well michael was standing on the pourch not even dressed and told me his mother didnt want him to get married, so he said that he couldnt get married right now. (I WAS SHOCKED) and very upset.
I left him and went 4 hours away to stay with my friend for a week whily my parents went on mine and michaels honeymoon trip. (it was non-refundable) Well, after about 2 weeks michael came to my house and said how sorry he was, and he had lied to me before when he told me he told his parents about us getting married. really he had told them the night before we were supposed to get married.
Anyway, I decided to stay with him, and his mom said she wanted to see me, and when I saw her she gave me a big hug. we ended up getting married 3 months later, and had a bigger wedding at a church. (never went on a honey-moon) the day of our wedding when my in-laws arrived his mom took me aside. I thought she would say "oh you look beautiful" or something thoughtful but instead she blew in my face and said to me "do i smell like beer?" (they were getting michael drunk before our wedding) I walked down the aisle to a glossy eyed groom. ooooh was I upset.
then we had the reception at our house, and naturally half way through his mom told everyone to go to her house, and everyone followed and it turned into a drunken recpetion party. after our wedding things got worse.
I ended up having the baby. he looks just like me. well when my son was 3 months old, out of the blue michaels mom came up to the house took our check book and walked out. I told michael to go back and get our check book back. he did, then when I was rocking my son to sleep, she showed up while michael was gone and walked to the room and started screaming at me.
I asked her why she would take our check book and she said because we now had a kid, and she wants us to manage our money right, and was scared that we would blow our money on ourselved. I explained that what we do with our money in none of her concern and I would never let my son go without. And then she pointed to my son and said "is he even michaels?" I screamed saying "i hate you get out" she started cussing and slambing doors. then a couple of months later michaels dad wanted him to do a side job with him. Michael told him yes, but he couldnt go until around 10:00am that next morning because I was going to go visit my sister an hour away and stay the night.
I had gotten home at 6:00am that morning and his dad pulled up at our house at 7:00am and I looked out the window and saw him feeling the hood of my car (he was checking if it was hot I guess) he then went to the front door and banged on the door.
i got our son out of bed and him and michael went to the front door. when michael opened the door his dad charged at him and started punching him. he thought michael lied about me going to go see my sister.
(CRAZY) well after all that I still was respectful to them. We started getting along again, but his mom always still seemed to hate me. Now, here comes the dr. phil situation.
I had gotten so annoyed with everything, and decided to write on the dr. phil website. Just to kind of vent my feelings. thats when the producers of the show contacted me. I turned down their offer to appeare on the show because I knew that michaels parents would never agree to going. I am going to fast forward to now.
A couple of weeks ago we went down to michaels parents house to eat over there because they had invited us over. when we were down there they started to talk to us about situations.
Pretty much talk about problems we have had in the past. michaels mom said to me "i know you dont like me" and I said "you keep saying that... are you sure it's not the other way around?" and she started crying and said "you hurt me..." I said "how?" and she said "you took michael away from me" I said "WHAT??? WE ARE MARRIED!" (we have been for almost 5 years now) and then both michaels parent started telling me how i robbed michael of his teen/early 20 years. Michael didnt say anything. (he has been beaten his whole life by them, so he pretty much acts like a whooped little puppy when around them) they went on and on and on.
I havent talked to them at all for 3 weeks now, but michael has. just this past weekend his mother called him up and was yelling at him for not calling her as much as he used to and then said "your wife's winning" We are now looking to move, because we both cannot handle this any longer. His parents are the in-laws from hell.

Story: My kid only

Submitted 18th June, 2009 Average Rating: 3

My husband and I have been married for 5 years and we have twins and I have a daughter from a pervous relationship.
His grandparents which have raised him) mistreat my daughter. He dosen't wont her over their because they are mean to her. She is not allowed to play with there toys, go into their room or share food with her brother or sister.
His grandmother has a habit of telling the twins things like "you know she's not really your sister because she has a different last name" or "you know she is not papa's granddaughter" granted that the twins are 6 and k is 7.
On top off that she calls 4 or 5 times a day asking questions like have the kids ate or do you need food. Like I don't feed them! They have also treaten to call social services on me for not taking my son to the doctor for a cough, no runny noise or throwing up just a cough! His mother has even called to put her two cent in and she has never done anything for her on son. But the whole family seem to can't stand me and nobody can tell me or him why.
This has become so big of a problem that we have talked about splitting up just to get them off my back!
We have tryed or best to tell her to stop or we'll take the kids away but she contuines to do it.
When we go to her all she dose is fuss and walk away so none of us can say anything eles.

What are we suppost to do?

Story: B-I-L

Submitted 18th June, 2009 Average Rating: 4

please help!!!!! My husband and i have been married for 6 years. we have been together for 9. he and his family are very close, which i wanted to be apart of. (i was given up as a baby) i wish i knew then what i know now. everything was great in the begining. they love me, a least to my face.
when i got pregent, everything changed. his brother called me really bad names ( the C-word was one of them) said the baby was not his..ect. i did not tell him at first, because i thought he would get over it,boy was i wrong., when i did tell him, my husband did nothing about it..he said he thought it would work itself out.
my husband and his brother would go out after he got off of work ( my husband, not his brother...out of 8 people in his imm family he is the only one who works) and they would not come home , somethimes for a few days.
one get together his brother tried to choke me.. w t f . my husband was in the bathroom when this happend so because he did not see it.. he is not sure it happend.
the bruise on my neck was not good enough. even my friends told him about it. he also pushed me over a table..he did not see that either. again my friends told him. it goes on and on.
his sister, would call him to ask what he was having for dinner....w t f
she called to tell me what kind of toothpaste to buy for him, what size shirts, the foods he likes. she would not believe me when she would call and he was not there.this also goes on and on his older brother passed away... we paid for the whole funeral. because like i said no one works.
his mom needed a tooth pulled. we paid for it..his sister was going to get her heat shut off.. paid it, car got towed, paid for it,dad needed medicin..paid it. on and on and on. i would get phone calls saying my husband was not at work, a letter in the mail with a pic of a woman and a baby .. saying this was my husbands girlfriend and son. his bro would call and say i would never bee anything but a piece of booty. emails from he "ex" girlfriend.. ( emailed back.. acct was closed.) i told him and showed him and he denies it.. and may exuses for everyone. i really do not think any of these thing are true. the letter was mailed from the same town that they live in. his paychecks add up and his time is accounted for.(i have popped in at work after the phone calls) my work move me to another state. i did not think my husband would go.. but he did. i thought this would help.. they found out we have a big house.. they want to move in with us.. all of them.
i have put my foot down with his brother. told him he cannot call any more... can not visit. i feel bad about this. i feel like my husband will not stand up for me with his brother. . now they sneak around( like it is another woman) blocking numbers. his mom got sick. and he flew home , then i found out it was for his bros b-day party.
they put pics on their my space page. his sister backed off. after i told her how she would like it if someone did this with her husband.. so now it it just his bro. i feel like a piece of crap.. am i just wasting time with this man. i truly love him. when he is not with his family. his is the perfect man. am i wrong.. for insiting he not have contact with his bro, my husband is a grown man. no one is makeing him do the things he does. he tells me i am the most important person in his life.
i feel like those woman who get beatin up and still stay with the man for 20 years.. i am a very strong and independent person, i have always made vey good money, never put up with any s..t from anyone.

why do i put up with this????
thank you sorry this was so long.

Story: Ex girlfriend this and that...

Submitted 3rd June, 2009 Average Rating: 3

I met my fiancee about 2 years ago. I was from the west coast and he the east coast and for a about 1 year we successfully had a long term relationship.
When I would visit his family they were spectacular on all levels. They almost mirrored my own amazing family. I knew if I ever were to make to move it would be an easy adjustment because of their loving and kind nature.

When I first moved in it was great. Both our families got along wonderfully. My fiancees mom and I were very close. We shopped together, got manicures together, cooked together. I almost became the daughter she never had since she only had 3 sons. Of course no where near to my own mother, but a close second she had become.
After 3 months things started to get wierd when I found out that her best girlfriend is the mother of my fiancees ex girlfriend who he dated for 6 years. Then she began constantly speaking about both his ex girlfriends on a non-stop basis. It was as if these two girls had been his sisters and not ex girlfriends. I had to hear about their family vacations together, and how much money each of them have, and practically where their birth marks are located.
What's worse is she wasnt the only one talking about these ex's. It was her mother as well. I decided not to tell my fiancee about it until I had lived there for almost 9 months. He talked to them but they obviously still don't get the point. They still talk about the two as if they are distant relatives in almost one conversation a day.

It's so hurtful and annoying and I hate that I have to live with them because of particular circumstances. We have been engaged for six months and are getting married shortly.
I am not sure I can keep my cool for much longer especially after we are married. So far I have been very respectful and have not said anything about them making me upset by the constant reminders of my fiancee's ex's.

Story: Time for the Husband side!

Submitted 30th May, 2009 Average Rating: 3

Ok, this goes back to the Halloween of '07. I first met Annie at school. Things were, shaky. But we began spending more time together. I would come to her house. But she would never come to mine. Finally, we decided to get engaged the next year in May. Then her family turned on us both, even though they had always done this to her. They would call the cops on us everytime we went on a date. They would call child protection services. Everything in the book to scare her into staying home.
Finally we went to a festival they hold here in Tennessee called Riverbend. I was at the end of my rope. Her family would always call me saying she was cheating on me with some guy. I seen her there at Riverbend with another guy. I flew off the handle and made a big scene in front of everyone. About three months later, she found me and made contact. We tried to work things out, and it did.
We got back together, got an apartment together. Then she got pregnant again in January. We rejoiced!
Then her psychotic family used this to every advantage. And made her move home. Then I spent the next month at my brothers, until certain complications happened. Then I moved into a one bedroom apartment by myself.
I begged her to move in, she refused because she lived in fear of her parents. I digest. Here recently, things have progressed, but not much, then a sudden aggravation. She put a restraining order on me due to her families black mail. She showed up in court and dropped it all. And everytime she calls me, her family tries to put me in jail.
I don't know what more I can do.
Advice?

Story: Future Mommy In Law

Submitted 18th May, 2009 Average Rating: 3

My future mother in law is just annoying! She is an extremely large woman and never does anything for herself.
She does work but she has no skills. All she does is yell at my Fiance to take out the dog, do this, grab my towel for me, etc. She has even called him while he was away and wanted him to come home so he could unload the groceries! She is constantly calling him just to ask random questions like "what are you doing," or "did you eat?" as if he isn't old enough to figure it out for himself! She babies my Fiance and he treats her like crap because she has never demanded respect from him.
It's just annoying how honestly pathetic she is! She even tells him to get up and do simple tasks that she simply doesn't want to do because she is too lazy! Once, while my Fiance was painting her living room, she sat there and complained about the paint job and said she could do better. My Fiance replied "so why don't you paint?" Well obviously she won't because that would require getting off her butt and doing something!
If my Fiance moved out and her husband died she would not be able to do anything, that is how completely dependant she is on others. She is the exact opposite of being a strong, independant woman and it bothers me so much.

Story: Look out, here comes a double dose of the Hormone Bomb!

Submitted 12th May, 2009 Average Rating: 3

On the surface my sister-in-law and I got along fine. There was plenty of distance to keep her from driving me crazy. She now lives in the same apartment complex that we do. She's recently married.
SO now that she lives so close I see her daily. Usually, if i have to get something from her or have to see her for whatever reason, I'll go over there because if she comes over here, she stays at least half of the day. I'm very schedule orientated and have worked hard to get my little boy on a healthy sleeping schedule, which she totallly disregards and keeps on talking and laughing really loud when I finally give up and lay him down for a nap dispite the fact that he won't go to sleep with all that going on. (I'm reasonable, if it were company or something like that, sometimes thats just how a day goes but my SIL 3-4 days out of the week recently??) I also feel really caught because she is constantly venting to me about how her brothers (my husband being one of them) are always trying to change her, don't like her, don't like how she is etc and she is constantly saying "remember before I got married how Horrible the boys were being to me..." What am I supposed to say? (I'm the sort who trys to get along with everyone and not cause problems or get people going so I just listen so I don't have to say anything because I don't agree.) The fact of the matter is that this girl has serious hormone issues (at least I hope its that and not an actualy unfixable personality problem!) She's VERY self centered, she can say and do what ever she wants to her brothers and mostly they just let it go but then when it builds up and one of them finally say somthing to her about laying off them, then WOW her brothers are always treating her so horrible! She says they constantly say hurtful things about her. (My husband hasn't talked to her in 6 months probably and she still goes on about him) She loves dishing out jokes and laughing about them but she can't take one at all! I've seen her stand there caterwauling saying "you hurt me in this way or that way" blah blah blah!!
Yes I need to vent! AH!
I came from a no nonsense family. I never had to deal with hormones at all and I'm frustrated and warn out with constant drama!!! I want a peacful life! What do I do?

Story: Sister in Law is the DEVIL

Submitted 11th May, 2009 Average Rating: 3

I have been with my husband for 15 years, married for 7 of them. The very first time I met his sister (who lives in FLA), she made up stories to his family about me. I met her in a room full of people, but somehow she says I told her that "all we do is have sex, and all I really want him for is to buy me a house" .. my (then boyfriend/now husband) confronted me as to WHY I would say such a thing, and I finally convinced him it wasn't true. Other things she has done include:

* She told my husband that their/his other sister said I am a slut, and all he attracts is sluts. He didn't speak to his other sister for 4 years because of this.

* She told my husband and their Mother that my husbands FATHER didn't approve of me, and would never speak to my husband again if he married me .. so my husband didn't confront the LIE, and didn't speak to his Father for a few years ..

* She told me that me that her brother, my boyfriend, my NOW husband, was GAY.

* When we had our first child, she told our neighbors that our BABY wasn't doing well, failing to THRIVE, and might not make it .. the neighbor came to my house telling me he had started a prayer chain for our VERY HEALTHY BABY! I was livid.

* When we had our second baby, she told her OWN HUSBAND that she had to FLY from Florida to Ohio to see us quickly, as the baby wasn't expected to SURVIVE .. she was a very healthy baby. Again, I was terribly upset that this woman uses CHILDREN to make lies up about.

* She called my husband on his very first Father's day, DRUNK, screaming at him about their Mother's WILL. Apparently she had found a copy of the will, at the Mom's house, read it, and wasn't happy with my Husband being the Power of Attorney.

* Her own small children, at age 9, came to me and said "did you know that our DAD wanted our MOM to abort our sister??" She feels free to speak to her children about sensitive material, that NO child should ever hear about their father .. I spoke to the father of the kids, and let him know what the kids were saying, so he could do damage control ..

* More later!

Story: They Dont Get It

Submitted 9th May, 2009 Average Rating: 3

My boyfriends parents are psycho people. A month into our relationship, he was 17 and got kicked out of his house for no reason. They hit him and controlled his life, or so they thought and moved in with my family. The 8 months he lived with us were the most stressful times in my life i have ever had to go through. I felt like i was married to the man. after living with us, he was able to move out and live on this own at age 18 in an apartment. Things happen all the time between him and his parents. Little fights and arguments about stupid stuff that makes no sense. And sometimes it really upsets him so then i get upset and it always affects me. They have never given me a chance to get to know them or them to get to know me. They have promised us dinner to get to know me and to attend some important soccer games of mine...but not once have they. They dont respect him or me or my family. We did so so much for him and have not even gotten a thank you. He lived on his own for 3 months and then moved back home to be with his two younger brothers. We have been together for over a year and they wont even talk to me when we go to his younger brothers games, or let alone look at me. Its like I stole him away from them when only we helped him in a big time of need. When he told me he was moving in I knew exactually what would happen, the same thing he has gone through the last 18 years. but why listen to me! He moved back in with his parents they said they felt bad and got all emotional about it and realized all they have been doing to him and me. NOT! they are back to being the controlling people they are. Its their way or the highway! I cant explain how much I hate them and how much i just want to be able to know them and not have it be so uncomfortable when im around. Im always on pins and needles when im around them, even when i pick him up sometimes at his house and im in the drive way! I dont know what i ever did to them, but i pray some day they come to realize how much they have put me throught and that i only helped their son out. the funny thing is they claim to like me but cant even talk to me! I hate being judged for nothing. and lastly not only do they judge me, people automatically thought that because he lived with my family that we slept together. At one point their were rumors about me being pregnant! Isn't that just great!?

example of controlling- When he comes over to my house....every weekend he can only stay til 11 or they will lock the front door and he has to find a place to sleep or sleep in his car.

Story: Fiance's Psycho family

Submitted 29th April, 2009 Average Rating: 3

So here's the gist of everything, My fiance and I have been together almost 3 years, 1 of which we have spent engaged. I of course however am the black widow. Everything started out fine, until we got engaged. I think this hit his mother because she realized we were serious and she got jealous that I was stealing her baby boy. One night, after some drinking, she suddenly burst in a rage telling me I was corrupting her son, that I was a wh*re a c**t... all sorts of unimaginable things and even went as far to slapping my fiance and chasing me out of the house while threatening to call the police if I did not leave. Did I mention the rocks she was throwing? The story is long, so I wont go into too many details but I have not seen them since, but for months afterwards continued to send me harrassing emails cussing me out and saying I had no self respect and what not... my father found me one day crying with an email in my hand and read it. He knew what had happened and reading her hateful words pushed him over the edge and contacted her and told her to stay away, until she started emailing him as well! he even went so far as to threaten police action. She'd finally stopped but still gets in the way of our relationship as it is long distance and she is still paying for his university. She still constantly bad mouths me and does anything to stop us from being together. He has decided to come and finish his university back home to move in with me and she has said that she will cut him off financially is he moves in with me. It probably doesn't seem so bad to you, but seriously, everything she does, she just tries in every little way to break us apart... the worst thing is, he sits by quietly... he is extremely passive and hates getting into conflict. I am so angry at him for not standing up for me and he says he does because we are engaged to be married but sits by and lets his mother say these things about me... he lets her control his life and it infuriates me because I know that if my parents were to do the same to him, there's no question I would not take any of it. How do I get him to man up while still having a relationship with his mother? We've even postponed our wedding because of all this and have no date for the near future... I know he loves me but how can he just stand by and let his mother control his life and say those things about me...?

Story: Only brownies can save you!

Submitted 19th February, 2009 Average Rating: 4

My job does not allow us to attend church regularly. Mine and hubby's parents attend the same church that we do, and next month there is a marraige seminar coming up. MIL was asking my mom if hubby and I were planning on attending the seminar. My mom said that it depended on my work schedule, and that I didn't know what days I had off yet. MIL tried to hide her defensiveness but it was painfully obvious to my mom. I think my MIL has it in her head that our marraige is doomed because we don't attend EVERY SINGLE SUNDAY and do all the extra-curricular church activities that she does. We have nothing against doing any of them, we just can't do all that we'd like due to my odd hours. Apparently that isn't a good enough excuse for her - I guess I will just never sleep and then we can come to the next bake sale! Never mind that after almost five years of being married and missing a few seminars hasn't affected anything - we are very happily married! She can stuff that bake sale brownie where the sun don't shine!

Story: In Dire Need of Help

Submitted 28th January, 2009 Average Rating: 3

My husbands family is driving me crazy, I don't know how much more I can take. His mother recently started hoarding food because she thinks that the end of the world is coming and thinks that somehow that will help. She has never given us a penny, not even for our wedding because she says we need to support ourselves, yet she pays for her 28 year-old daughters apartment because she didn't like living at home anymore. She doesn't work and never went to college. His mother is constantly lecturing me about how i raise my children and sees nothing wrong with her daughter. His sister sleeps around with her roommates and bring them to family gatherings- her most recent boyfriend threatened her and she needed to call the cops and have her locks changed. I just can't take any more of them, all his sister does is whine and complain about how her life is out of control and his mom keeps lecturing me about storing up enough for my family in case it's the world ends tomorrow. These people belong in therapy and far away from me!

My Mother-in-law’s Minion

Submitted 5th October, 2008 Average Rating: 4

My MIL is a conniving woman and now she has cronies on her side. Recently my husband and I went to visit an old friend. It was an out of the blue invitation, and this friend seemed very interested in learning the details of the in-law problems we were experiencing. We did not think much of it until the next day, this woman called my husband saying she spoke with his parents about our issues. I called her up to give her a piece of my mind and she denied the entire thing. Then she goes online and tells my husband that people are saying bad things behind our backs about us, and when we ask what or who she says “I keep my promises and I promised I would not tell.” What about the promise she made to us to keep this conversation just between us?? So now because of this ‘friend’, things are even worse because a third party decided to get involved and do nothing but make the situation worse. This same person doesn’t even speak to her own in-laws. Can’t help but think my MIL put this person up to it, now I need to watch out for my MIL’s minions.

My MIL from hell!

Submitted 23rd August, 2008 Average Rating: 4.5

I am a 26 year old Male. I've been married to my wonderful wife for 8 months now. I absolutely love her to the end. We dated for 7 years before deciding to get married. We realllly took our time. I really believe I have the most wonderful wife I could ask for. She puts up with me for one!

Anyway, I was a home owner before my wife and I were married. I lived in a very nice neighborhood in north central San Antonio, TX. After we got back from our honeymoon, we moved her from the apartment she was living in, into my home. Now, in all fairness, I don't believe it's fair for her to move in with me. I mean, I already lived there so it wasn't really "our" home. It was always "my" home, even though I tried very hard to make it "ours". So we decided the long hunt for finding a home we both loved. Now, my wife, as much as I love her, is very meticulous, and quite a bit picky. Small things matter to her a great deal. So we spent a great deal of time and energy looking for the perfect house. We finally found it after looking at over 2 dozen houses. I was perfect, all stucco and stone, granite counter tops, travertine floors, wrap around shower, you name it. It was perfect! But it was a bit out of our price range. Since I've worked for about 8 years in IT as a single man, I had some money stowed away. So I took about a $100k of my own money, (money I earned before getting married), and used it to purchase our dream home!!! So we finally get moved in, and we are sorting things about and buying new things for our home. It's bigger than my old house, so we have some rooms to fill with new furniture. I spent about ten thousand. We decide we'll invite my wife’s parents over to see the house. BIG MISTAKE! They loved it...the floors, counters, colors, everything!! Was wonderful to see them enjoy something we also enjoyed. BUT. the only problem was, the house next door. It was for sale.

why I did'nt consider this when buying the home in the first place, I'll never understand...I guess I wasn't expecting them to actually BUY IT! :(
So a month or two go by, and they look at it a number of times. When finally I hear through the grape vine, that they have bid on it.
So I pray...please don't let them win the auction for the house next door.

My prayers were not answered.

They won and within a month they were there. less than 100 feet from us at any given day. Breathing the same air, looking at the same beautiful view, feeling the same sun rays. Almost the same exact sunrays.
Now, I'm treated as a child in my own home by my inlaws... I don't want to blow up at them. but don't know what to do..

WHO THE HECK BUYS A HOUSE NEXT TO YOUR DAUGHTER, WHO HASN'T EVEN BEEN MARRIED FOR A YEAR YET!?!???.

Apparently these people do. They are highly disfunctional.

What do I DO??? Please help???!!! MOVE? Why should I, we purchased the home first...it just isn't fair.

My SIL is a Nut Job

Submitted 23rd August, 2008 Average Rating: 4

She is a total mess. She lies to everybody and somehow gets people to believe her. She hasn’t worked in years and claims she is disabled. She is NOT disabled and is perfectly capable of working. Instead she wants to mooch off of her elderly mother and my dh for money all the time. She is trying to sue someone from an accident she was once in and even the lawyer had to drop her and he told her she was nuts. Her main purpose in life is how to make money without actually working for it. So now, she wants my dh to buy her a house because the apartment she is currently in - she claims that it has brought her bad luck. She is the most miserable person in the world and has the worst personality. She is a spoiled rotten person who really need someone to slap some sense into her. Go to work woman and leave us alone!

Hidden Identity

Submitted 23rd August, 2008 Average Rating: 3.5

My mother in-law is a great actress... She claims being vegetarian in front of me and my family but behind closed doors, my FIL gets her her favorite dish--Kentucky Fried Chicken. She claims to be a very healthy doctor, being a psychiatrist and all, but she pops anti-depressant pills and high blood pressure tablets behind the curtains. While I lived with my in-laws after I got married, we discovered that my in-laws were sleeping during most of their free time in the day and rejecting family outings and gatherings with excuses that they have a very busy schedule at work. She preaches to be an excellent religious devotee but the prayer room at her house is in the smallest, darkest room upstairs in the store room which looks more like a closet. I don't understand why she conceals her true identity....

Creepy Sister-in-law

Submitted 4th July, 2008 Average Rating: 4

So another case of uneasy relations with the in-laws. We were tragically all invited to the same wedding and my husband and I decided before hand that were we going to be the better person and be nice and respectful to the in-laws when we saw them. When we walked up to the church in the distance I could see my MIL, FIL and SIL and they must have seen us at the same moment because my sister-in-law turned to my MIL and pointed in our direction. So a few minutes later we sat down in the church next to some friends of our and right behind the in-laws. MIL said hi, FIL said hi and my dear sister-in-law looked at me and had this look of disgust with an eyebrow raised. OK, so it was clear she still disapproved of me. We turned our attention to the wedding ceremony in front of us and tried to ignore the In-Laws. After the wedding, people went there separate ways and my husband ran off to take picture of the newly weds. I was standing talking to another guest and I felt that creepy feeling like someone was watching me. I look, and about 20 yards away I saw my sister-in-law point a camera in my direction, and then quickly put it down and look the other way. I was a bit confused and looked a few seconds later and she did the same thing again! She was trying to covertly take a picture of me! Why on God’s green earth would anyone want to do that!?!? I was feeling really uncomfortable about it, and the gentleman I was talking to noticed it even. Finally after a few more minutes of this childish behavior the gentleman I was talking to said he knew how to fix this and put his arm around me and turned me in the direction of my sister-in-law. She rolled her eyes with that ‘I hate you’ look on her face and took a picture. Who would bother taking sneak pictures of someone they claim to want nothing to do with. I had a sneaking suspicion she was crazy and now I know it and have witnesses to prove this!

Grunt Work

Submitted 27th June, 2008 Average Rating: 3

My MIL is nice enough, but she thinks nothing at all of my chosen profession, helping the disabled. Its not very glamorous, but it is very rewarding and I enjoy it a lot. Well for a while now MIL has been sending me emails on job openings at her work, because mine isn't "good enough". So a few weeks ago she ran into my mom, and asked her if I had said anything to her about the email she sent to me on the job. Mom said no, she hasn't said anything to me. She then replies, "Well, she needs to find something soon, and get out of that GRUNT WORK job of hers. Its riduculous!" My mom is very proud of my job and the work I do, and she said it took everything she had to not tell this woman to piss off right on the spot. My MIL has NEVER said anything to me about her feelings of my work, I just thought the emails were her being nice. I know better now! Its very frustrating to not be appreciated, it makes my job harder but I still like it. But its worse when somebody who doesn't even know or understand how hard of a job it is just dismiss it like a rich person would treat their "lowly staff". I keep my mouth shut about it to keep the peace with my husband, but I really wish she'd leave it alone!! I'm not going to change my job just to please her!!!!