My MIL from hell!
Average Rating: 4I am a 26 year old Male. I've been married to my wonderful wife for 8 months now. I absolutely love her to the end. We dated for 7 years before deciding to get married. We realllly took our time. I really believe I have the most wonderful wife I could ask for. She puts up with me for one!
Anyway, I was a home owner before my wife and I were married. I lived in a very nice neighborhood in north central San Antonio, TX. After we got back from our honeymoon, we moved her from the apartment she was living in, into my home. Now, in all fairness, I don't believe it's fair for her to move in with me. I mean, I already lived there so it wasn't really "our" home. It was always "my" home, even though I tried very hard to make it "ours". So we decided the long hunt for finding a home we both loved. Now, my wife, as much as I love her, is very meticulous, and quite a bit picky. Small things matter to her a great deal. So we spent a great deal of time and energy looking for the perfect house. We finally found it after looking at over 2 dozen houses. I was perfect, all stucco and stone, granite counter tops, travertine floors, wrap around shower, you name it. It was perfect! But it was a bit out of our price range. Since I've worked for about 8 years in IT as a single man, I had some money stowed away. So I took about a $100k of my own money, (money I earned before getting married), and used it to purchase our dream home!!! So we finally get moved in, and we are sorting things about and buying new things for our home. It's bigger than my old house, so we have some rooms to fill with new furniture. I spent about ten thousand. We decide we'll invite my wife’s parents over to see the house. BIG MISTAKE! They loved it...the floors, counters, colors, everything!! Was wonderful to see them enjoy something we also enjoyed. BUT. the only problem was, the house next door. It was for sale.
why I did'nt consider this when buying the home in the first place, I'll never understand...I guess I wasn't expecting them to actually BUY IT! :( So a month or two go by, and they look at it a number of times. When finally I hear through the grape vine, that they have bid on it. So I pray...please don't let them win the auction for the house next door.
My prayers were not answered.
They won and within a month they were there. less than 100 feet from us at any given day. Breathing the same air, looking at the same beautiful view, feeling the same sun rays. Almost the same exact sunrays. Now, I'm treated as a child in my own home by my inlaws... I don't want to blow up at them. but don't know what to do..
WHO THE HECK BUYS A HOUSE NEXT TO YOUR DAUGHTER, WHO HASN'T EVEN BEEN MARRIED FOR A YEAR YET!?!???.
Apparently these people do. They are highly disfunctional.
What do I DO??? Please help???!!! MOVE? Why should I, we purchased the home first...it just isn't fair.
My SIL is a Nut Job
Average Rating: 3She is a total mess. She lies to everybody and somehow gets people to believe her. She hasn’t worked in years and claims she is disabled. She is NOT disabled and is perfectly capable of working. Instead she wants to mooch off of her elderly mother and my dh for money all the time. She is trying to sue someone from an accident she was once in and even the lawyer had to drop her and he told her she was nuts. Her main purpose in life is how to make money without actually working for it. So now, she wants my dh to buy her a house because the apartment she is currently in - she claims that it has brought her bad luck. She is the most miserable person in the world and has the worst personality. She is a spoiled rotten person who really need someone to slap some sense into her. Go to work woman and leave us alone!
Hidden Identity
Average Rating: 4My mother in-law is a great actress... She claims being vegetarian in front of me and my family but behind closed doors, my FIL gets her her favorite dish--Kentucky Fried Chicken. She claims to be a very healthy doctor, being a psychiatrist and all, but she pops anti-depressant pills and high blood pressure tablets behind the curtains. While I lived with my in-laws after I got married, we discovered that my in-laws were sleeping during most of their free time in the day and rejecting family outings and gatherings with excuses that they have a very busy schedule at work. She preaches to be an excellent religious devotee but the prayer room at her house is in the smallest, darkest room upstairs in the store room which looks more like a closet. I don't understand why she conceals her true identity....
Creepy Sister-in-law
Average Rating: 4So another case of uneasy relations with the in-laws. We were tragically all invited to the same wedding and my husband and I decided before hand that were we going to be the better person and be nice and respectful to the in-laws when we saw them. When we walked up to the church in the distance I could see my MIL, FIL and SIL and they must have seen us at the same moment because my sister-in-law turned to my MIL and pointed in our direction. So a few minutes later we sat down in the church next to some friends of our and right behind the in-laws. MIL said hi, FIL said hi and my dear sister-in-law looked at me and had this look of disgust with an eyebrow raised. OK, so it was clear she still disapproved of me. We turned our attention to the wedding ceremony in front of us and tried to ignore the In-Laws. After the wedding, people went there separate ways and my husband ran off to take picture of the newly weds. I was standing talking to another guest and I felt that creepy feeling like someone was watching me. I look, and about 20 yards away I saw my sister-in-law point a camera in my direction, and then quickly put it down and look the other way. I was a bit confused and looked a few seconds later and she did the same thing again! She was trying to covertly take a picture of me! Why on God’s green earth would anyone want to do that!?!? I was feeling really uncomfortable about it, and the gentleman I was talking to noticed it even. Finally after a few more minutes of this childish behavior the gentleman I was talking to said he knew how to fix this and put his arm around me and turned me in the direction of my sister-in-law. She rolled her eyes with that ‘I hate you’ look on her face and took a picture. Who would bother taking sneak pictures of someone they claim to want nothing to do with. I had a sneaking suspicion she was crazy and now I know it and have witnesses to prove this!
Grunt Work
Average Rating: 3My MIL is nice enough, but she thinks nothing at all of my chosen profession, helping the disabled. Its not very glamorous, but it is very rewarding and I enjoy it a lot. Well for a while now MIL has been sending me emails on job openings at her work, because mine isn't "good enough". So a few weeks ago she ran into my mom, and asked her if I had said anything to her about the email she sent to me on the job. Mom said no, she hasn't said anything to me. She then replies, "Well, she needs to find something soon, and get out of that GRUNT WORK job of hers. Its riduculous!" My mom is very proud of my job and the work I do, and she said it took everything she had to not tell this woman to piss off right on the spot. My MIL has NEVER said anything to me about her feelings of my work, I just thought the emails were her being nice. I know better now! Its very frustrating to not be appreciated, it makes my job harder but I still like it. But its worse when somebody who doesn't even know or understand how hard of a job it is just dismiss it like a rich person would treat their "lowly staff". I keep my mouth shut about it to keep the peace with my husband, but I really wish she'd leave it alone!! I'm not going to change my job just to please her!!!!